I was having this anticipation of how I would re-enter into a world of dating again after the great emotional journey that I went through. Although, I have already met a few seductive, charming, alluring and captivating fine young men, my self-esteem at the time were very low. I guess I was just being leery and not wanting to end up in a rebound relationship.
I have heard a daring statement from someone and this person even said it to my face. She goes, "Why even bother of going out dating again when you had just experienced a bad relationship?" I was offended and was very infuriated of her remarks. Just because I went through hell with my previous relationship, I was just gonna stop dating and just sit in the corner and pity myself. It took me a while to contemplate why in the world this person audaciously uttered a mind-boggling remarks. Well, I am not going to suspend my life or happiness due to I was treated badly in the past.
No matter what you would say or do, there are always people out there who always puts you down anyways and I am not going to entertain that. At this time, it was over a year then since I was divorced from my abuser. I can go ahead pursue and find my lifetime happiness. Family and friends have tried hooking me up many times with their acquaintances. No one has ever capture my heart yet. Obviously, my family's attempts of hooking me up with different guy wasn't working.
So I have tried an alternatives of finding my date- online! I was so daring for doing this not knowing the pros and cons but I went ahead and joined match.com anyway. Mind you, at this time I was in California and most people that I have met doesn't act like of that hillbilly like. So i was not afraid but still of course I was cautious.
I met my very first official date, Mr. Suave, a Puerto Rican guy! He had this elagant style, very handsome, athletic, well-dressed, clean-cut and very macho. He seems to fit that bill. He brought me a big teddy bear, a flower and a wine the first time we met. Who would want to do that on a first date? To try to entice me? Remember, I am aware of my past. So these gifts thing, I would not be sold at all. In fact, it turned me off big time.
I just don't agree that a guy will give a woman a flower/chocolate/or whatever for a first date. Unless you already know the person well. Perhaps this person was your colleagues, friends and now you two decided to go out for a date. That's perfectly fine but if this is the the first time for a guy to meet this girl, I suggest a guy should hold off for giving a gifts.
The reason being that it was uncomfortable for me to accept the gifts from him because 1) I didn't want him to blow his money on me and feel such a loser if our first date will not go smoothly. 2) A guy who would bring gifts or flowers for a first date is trying hard to win a woman's heart. In my bible of dating, this is not going to win me.
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